How to Cope When Your Adult Child Moves Away: A Guide for Empty Nesters

Watching your child spread their wings and embark on their own journey is a bittersweet moment for any parent. Whether they're moving across the country for education, a job, or to start a family of their own, the distance can feel like a gaping hole in your heart. But fear not, dear parent, for you are not alone in this emotional rollercoaster.

In this post, we'll explore some practical tips and advice on how to cope when your child moves away.

1. Acknowledge Your Feelings

It's okay to feel a whirlwind of emotions when your child moves away; it's a massive life changing event for everyone. From sadness and loneliness to pride and excitement for their new chapter, allow yourself to experience and process these feelings. Don't bottle them up; instead, talk about them with your partner, friends, or a therapist. Sharing your emotions can be incredibly cathartic and validating. Journaling was my release. There’s something magical about getting your thoughts out of your head and onto paper. The process of reading them back somewhat distances them from you and allows you to process them quicker. Download The Abundant Nest Journal and read this BLOG POST to confirm why you should embrace Journaling.

2. Stay Connected

Just because your child is miles away doesn't mean you can't stay close. Embrace technology as your ally and schedule regular video calls, phone chats, or even old-fashioned handwritten letters. Knowing that you're just a call away can provide comfort to both you and your child as you navigate this new phase of your relationship. Don’t forget this is a new experience for both of you. You should expect your child to take a short time to find their independence. This looks different for everyone, but may mean they go a little quiet on the communication front. They’re trying to figure out their new normal. Read this BLOG POST for more tips to stay connected with your young adults.

3. Create New Traditions

With your child no longer living under your roof, it's natural for family dynamics to shift. Instead of dwelling on the past, embrace the opportunity to create new traditions. That said, don't let past family traditions slide. These are your child’s memories too, keep them strong. You could arrange a monthly family dinner via video call or an annual reunion vacation, find ways to stay connected and continue to create cherished memories together.

4. Focus on Self-Care

As you adjust to life without your child at home, it's essential to prioritise self-care. Take this newfound freedom as an opportunity to pursue hobbies, reconnect with old friends, or embark on solo adventures. Nurturing your own well-being will not only help you cope with the empty nest but also set a positive example for your child as they navigate their own independence. You’ve heard the saying ‘fill you own cup first’? Well it’s true. If you are happy and content you not only live a happier healthier life, you are able to give more to others. So let it start with you. Read this BLOG POST to discover tips to embrace self-care.

5. Seek Support

Remember, you're not alone in this journey. Reach out to other parents who have experienced similar transitions or join support groups both online and in your community. Meetup is a great website to finding activities that you enjoy, with like minded people. Sharing your experiences and hearing from others can provide valuable insight and reassurance that you're not alone in your feelings. If you are not already in our Facebook Community please come join us. Read this BLOG POST to understand the stages of grief during empty nest syndrome.

Watching your child move away can be one of the most challenging experiences for a parent, it's also an opportunity for growth and transformation, and recognition of a job well done. By acknowledging your feelings, staying connected, creating new traditions, focusing on self-care, and seeking support, you can navigate this transition with grace and resilience. Remember, your child may be physically distant, but the love and bond you share will always keep you connected, no matter the miles between you. You’ve got this. I believe in you. But do reach out if you need more help.

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